I thought I would check in and report what it's like now. I am 28 days post-op and am happy to say that I have had all the support needed to not rush my recovery. This is SO important! Lifting things over 10 pounds too soon or allowing anything to enter your vagina before the doctor's okay can lead to adhesions or infection- neither of which you want trust me! I have returned to doing my own laundry in the basement laundromat of my building but only one small (light) load a day, washing dishes, and de-cluttering papers etc... around the house. I also have been going out daily for a walk (I can not walk my poodle though which is sad). The distance depends on how I feel but is about 4 blocks minimum now. I started with half a block walks at about 2 weeks post-op and now can run small errands to stores. I just have to make sure to not buy anything that adds up to 10 pounds or more. Tomorrow I have a hair appointment and it will be my first time on the subway but I am feeling okay with it. I'm also taking 2mg of melatonin every night with my vitamins so I can sleep as long as possible. Sleep allows the body to regenerate.
(Movie Star seeing if I'm ready to wake up).
As for my mental adjustment to my operation I am thrilled at how much of my life I am getting back! I had my cycle for 33 years and it was always painful but progressively became debilitating and I had started blocking out 3 days a month where I couldn't make plans. THREE days a month is 36 days a year - over a month of my life every year spent throwing up, crying, pushing myself through things I couldn't cancel even though I had horrible amounts of pain and even passing out from cramping. It adds up to 1,188 days of torture- give or take a few. My future planned number of days set aside for my cycle are ZERO! I had issues besides my cycle that showed up with ultra sound and that led me to my hysterectomy. If I had never gone to the GYN or had discussions with my other friends who have vaginas and ovaries I would NEVER have gotten to this place of freedom. Please discuss your body and it's functions with community and medical providers and healers. I'm so glad I did.
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I can't BELIEVE two weeks ago I was in the waiting area for surgery losing my mind at this time (2pm). I feel like I've been making great progress. Now please know if you're going to have a hysterectomy or already have that EVERY BODY HEALS DIFFERENTLY. It can be dangerous to compare your recovery to someone elses and this is why the online community I found for information and support has been so valuable! It's called Hyster Sisters and here is the link (click on logo):
I found not only great support in the threads of women who were very generous in sharing but also videos of how to give yourself the BEST chance of healing well for every recovery period:
1-2 Weeks after surgery video (click snail):
Honestly you'll find everything you need for support there as well as great suggestions. So some surprising things that happened to me after surgery were not being able to have a bowel movement (I'm going there) and a few hot flashes (keep in mind I still have my ovaries). So this is what I did (you should always check with your doctor for what's best for you), I drank A LOT of water...and herbal tea unsweetened....and took Miralax and Colace stool softener EVERYDAY and after 3 days and still nothng I used a suppository and was fine right away. Everything was back and working but the most imprtant thing is that I stopped the Miralax but continued the Colace for the entire time that I was on Percocet. Opiates cause constipation. I'm off of the opiates now and using 600mg of Ibuprofen every 6 hours and feel fine. I did use the Percocet as directed and was on it every 4 hours for the first few days and then every 6 hours after that for 10 days total. I don't see any reason in "toughing it out". I was in pain so I took the medicine but I did notice the last couple of days I took it I could stretch it to every 8 hours. This is how I knew that I was getting better. It really is the little things at first. My couple of hot flashes coud be related to a temporary disturbance in the performance of the ovaries due to the trauma of the surgery. I will ask my doctor on my first follow up this week.
My amazing community (friends and family) have been showing up for me in great ways. I've had a friend come and make a gorgeous organic salad for all of us for dinner, wonderful catching up sessions have arrived on the phone from my West Coast family and in the mail in the forms of cards and gifts from all over! Whether it's fresh flowers being brought or just a text asking me how I'm doing I know that this love and care is speeding up my recovery. I suggest that you don't be afraid to ask for support and help. I emailed my closest circle and let them know weeks in advance what was happening and let them know that I would love visitors and calls during my month of at home recovery.
(awesome salad from Lucky!)
(tulips from Kate <3)
A challenge for me right now is I feel better so I will go to do something that is not sugggested at this stage in my recovery like pick up something over 10 pounds or bend all the way over to the floor to pick something up. My poodle named Movie Star is 10 pounds now and it's SO hard to not pick her up - we bond on grooming sessions and walking and I can't do either with her right now. I asked two of my dear friends to come over and "walk me and the dog" and that was great! I got out and had the fun of watching her be walked with us.
(me and my daughter Movie Star)
My Husbear has been my greatest source of strength. He has fed me, cleaned the house, hosted several of my visitors, brought me endless cups of tea, wiped my feet with wet wipes because I couldn't reach them in the shower, ran to the store for me a million times, took over the grooming of Movie Star, and most importantly made me laugh everyday. It's such a wonderful feeling of joy to know that I am married to the man of my dreams and we can carry each other through anything. I'll post next week and do hope that this has proved helpful.
(me and my Awesome Husbear at Arcade Fire)
Slow and Steady Wins the Race,
World Famous *BOB*